Emotional spending AKA shopping therapy can be avoided once we realize why we are spending money to make ourselves feel better. Emotional spending isn’t just about buying clothes or whipping out a credit card to click “buy now” on Amazon.
It’s more about the relief, distraction, and satisfaction that spending money can give us.
We pick up snacks in hope of feeling better, spend money on alcoholic beverages, and blame how we feel that day on all the things we do not have. It’s natural to want more, this greed is what prompts us to fulfill our goals.
To reach for things that once felt unattainable and to make our environment something more desirable.
Wanting more is not a bad thing. The desire for more is in no way binary but this blog post is to help you understand that you do not have to spend money because you want control or to feel better.
Spend because it’s helping you in the long term or because you have already paid yourself first and have extra cash.
Keep reading to find out 6 ways to eliminate shopping therapy aka a classic form of emotional spending
1. Find a Hobby
When you feel the urge to pull out your wallet, dig deep into your bowl of hobbies and see if one of those activities makes you feel better.
Whether this is painting, catching up on a show, DIY-ing a new project or aggressively scrubbing a surface in an effort to clean it, you can find something to occupy your time.
This doesn’t have to be an in-depth activity. When choosing one just think of something that won’t stress you out more. If the pressure of deciding feels impossible because you’re overwhelmed with feelings, create a list and work your way down. It helps to make the list before you’re in the midst of an emotional whirlpool because we tend to not think as clearly when we’re upset.
As you get through the list, the goal is for your energy to lighten gradually because all feelings do pass.
2. Reach out to a friend
Tell someone who is emotionally available what’s on your mind. Social interaction can lead to you not only feeling heard when times are hard but if you ask for advice, they may even give you a new view on what you’re dealing with.
When you try to prevent emotional spending by talking to someone there are certain people you should not reach out to.
Who should you avoid when going through a hard time?
The reminder - The person who reminds you how you can’t afford it and makes you feel bad
It’s all about me - The one who can’t keep the focus off of them for long periods of time
The sometimes friend - The friend you don’t talk to often and always remember why during the conversation
The motivational friend - The one who encourages your overspending