How to Know If You Lack Boundaries and 9 Effective Ways To Create Them

Are you someone who takes the actions of others personally?

Boundaries are not always noticeable, so when they've been breached, it can leave you feeling confused and angry.

Establishing what you are okay with and what you will not tolerate can happen unintentionally.

But for a lot of us it takes time and practice to live mindfully and stop people pleasing.

Soon you'll be able to identify warning signs and discover a few tips to assist you with combating old habits.

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What to look for 

Helping others leaves a bad taste in your mouth

It's easy to say that you don't want to do something and still do it. It's an obedient cycle that began in childhood and proceeded into adulthood

It started with doing homework in elementary school and became reinforced when we got our first job.

We constantly do things for other people to the point where it feels unnatural to say no.

This especially becomes the case when you're good at something. Now your friends are asking you to take on task you normally wouldn't, your family wants you to cook, and you hear everyone else vent, but no one stops to ask how you're feeling.

Bitter, angry, passive aggressive, disappointed, tired, and lacking patience is how most people feel after engaging in an activity, that they desperately wanted to avoid.

People in your life get upset when you tell them no

A lot of the times those who have access to you will see what you have to offer.

Maybe you talk about a skill or they have witnessed it. This can result in a sense of entitlement and [sometimes unintentional] exploitation.

When you turn down their offer they may begin to lash out verbally or even commit aggressive acts such as slamming cabinet doors. Some may even resort to silent treatment in an effort to make you feel bad.

YOU get upset when someone says no